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it irks me when people try to do the whole ’ya books are serious literature for adults’ thing like no they’re not! and that’s fine! you don’t have to read classics and complex novels all the time! they’re the silly tv show equivalent of books! i have enjoyed a sophie kinsella book in my time!stop telling me i’m a misogynist for saying that many of those books are badly written and without depth! like pretty sure the next tiktok trend is going to be ’girl literature for girls who don’t get classic lit!!!! those old books are all war and misogyny anyway they’re so depressing! 🥰’
Zepotha will never be Goncharov because when it comes down to it, tumblr culture is collaborative, while tiktok culture is merely iterative, and those are not the same thing.
Op I refuse to let your tags stay in the tags cause THIS!!!!!
“your rent should be a third of your income” well wouldn’t that be nice. wouldn’t it. lower the rent pussy
Casual observation from someone old enough to remember: in the year 2000 financial advice was that rent should be no more than ¼ of your income.
Until the mid 80s, the advice was that if you must rent instead of owning, then that 20% of your monthly income (oh yes, only 20%) should include all your utilities too.
After all, rent costs more than a mortgage, so it should offer more too.
sorry to like. care. on main but the whole thing with tiktok trying to steal and repackage and commercialize goncharov is kind of a perfect metaphor for mainstream media turning things done in earnest for enjoyment’s sake into shitty inauthentic backwash for money and attention. anyway tiktok shouldve been the app to die stop monetizing everything
idk abt everyone else but personally i used 2 use tampons til i was like 23ish? and they made my cramps soooooo much fucking worse. i didn’t even realise til i started using pads n noticed how much easier the pain would b on the first few days. my bleeding is def not light (at least for sure not those first couple of days) nd pads are a little more inconvenient (esp reusable ones which yeah they can b a pain in the ass in certain situations) but well worth the trade-off fr me. plastic pads are a little uncomfortable (i only rly use them if im travelling or otherwise in a pinch) but reusable ones are sooo comfortable imo. and the feeling of changing in 2 a freshly laundered pad still warm frm the dryer is crazy i literally never knew menstruation could b so cozy lmaoo
Would 100% recommend period underwear, honestly 10× more comfortable and practical than both pads and tampons imo. I expected them to be more difficult to use but they are so much easier. I have a post on here somewhere talking about the pros and cons but it was ages ago.
Before I got them I used to alternate between pads and tampons because they both had their aspects of discomfort and I’d switch it up when one got too much. Although on the first night or two I’d have to use both to sleep in.
(Also speaking as someone with cramps from the deepest reaches of hell: if tampons are affecting your cramps at all, you are probably not putting them in right)
I suspect a lot of people weren’t comfortable shoving something up their vag when their period started—and once you get into a personal habit for period stuff, you’re not likely to change, because why bother? And getting used to something takes practice: I started with tampons after Night #1 of my period, because it was miserably hot and I needed to swim to survive. It was uncomfortable for months and months until I dialled in brand preference (o.b. for me! Longer tampons always went in crooked, which felt like bonus cramps) and how to insert them (accepting that, on light days, it’ll be a bit uncomfy until the blood flow lubricates things).
But unless you had a reason to really try for tampons or cups, I think people are comfy with what they’re comfortable with and don’t feel much comfort experimenting. The exception, I suspect, is heavy flow people, because we were always living on the edge of disaster. I bet the number of people with heavy flow (e.g., two tampons at a time) who pick cups dwarfs that of people with light flow.
Also I gotta say that my grandma was horrified by tampons because of old ideas about penetration and virginity. I suspect a bit of that still hangs out in the culture wrt what people give 11–13 year olds to shove up their genitalia as a first option. A lot of kids don’t get told much about their genitalia until damn near the day they get their period, so it’s a foreign country down there.
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Yeah, this is fair; I’m one of those heavy flow people and I was from the very start, so I really didn’t have a choice except to get used to tampons because pads are just so uncomfortable if you have big periods. You have to use really bulky ones that make your underwear tight (and I was a teenager in the 2000s when tight, low-cut jeans were all the rage, yuck) and you can feel it all day.
I also had a very crunchy ‘90s feminist, New-Moon-magazine-subscription childhood with a mom who was very open and helpful about these things, which probably made me more willing to give tampons a chance as a 12-yro than many.
That said, I do wish more people would consider trying different things if it might be helpful. I get being set in your ways, but I suspect not all of the people here voting pads have light flows, and they might benefit from experimenting with tampons (or cups) if it could make their time of the month a little less miserable?
I will at least make the case for cloth pads, since I suspect a lot of people stay away for them for the reason I did for years: thinking they require a lot of specialized washing and stain removal. They don’t; the fancy designs you see are for the outside of the pad, while the part you bleed on is usually black or dark grey. Any stains on that portion will either be invisible or wash out in a washing machine. So you really can just toss 'em in with your normal laundry, and you usually get a set of five or six so you can get through that in one cycle and then wash the lot before the next one. And they are so much more comfortable, much cheaper in the long run; the only downside is they can twist around to the outside of your underwear sometimes.
But regardless, yeah, no one should have to feel pressured to do anything they don’t want to do during that time of the month. I just think jokes about exclusive pads users being unadventurous are funny (and the joke about it comes from a Tina Fey movie that I haven’t seen, but that I read a review of years ago and it stuck with me)
I mean, treating yaoi as the opposite of yuri just doesn’t make sense mathematically: boys are not the inverse of girls. The actual opposite of yuri would somehow have to involve fewer than zero girls, and that’s not an easy thing to characterise.
It has been proposed in the notes that shonen anime, Hideo Kojima games, and police procedurals where all the women die by the end satisfy the criterion of having fewer than zero girls in various ways.
Identifying the common thread of these proposals, we may thus conclude that the opposite of yuri is Supernatural.
(“Doesn’t that just put us back at square one with respect to positing that yaoi is the opposite of yuri” well, no, because Supernatural is also, for unrelated reasons, the opposite of yaoi.)
